I can only help someone who wants to be helped. That is so true in most situations. You can’t offer to help someone unless they have asked for it.
Doing so is often not appreciated, and you will get no thanks. You may even offend them. The best course of action is usually to mind your own business.
This same principle applies to my therapy practice. I can only help someone who asks for help. I can only help them down the track they want to go.
I do not deviate from that. Sometimes, people say they want help but what they want is something else entirely. In those cases, I am still limited in what I can do.
Helping someone who wants to be helped
Recently, a lady came to see me to help her quit smoking. I ensured she was comfortable and relaxed and answered all her questions thoroughly. She had no real purpose in life; smoking just filled in her time.
She felt that smoking was a necessary part of her life. After speaking with her, I concluded that she didn’t want to quit smoking, and she agreed. There was no point in carrying on; she was wasting her money and my time.
If we had carried on with the therapy, I would not have been successful in helping her to quit smoking. She would not have been satisfied. Probably, she would have told all her friends that hypnosis doesn’t
work, which would have been detrimental to my practice.
Sometimes, a lady will contact me in hopes that I can help her husband or partner quit smoking. More often than not, the conversation goes like this: “I’m going to ring a hypnotist and make an appointment. He will get you off and sort you out.”
I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but if he doesn’t want to quit, there’s very little I can do. And even if she makes the call, I still need to speak to him directly. I need satisfied clients to maintain a successful practice—and I can’t help them if they don’t want to be helped. I don’t have a magic wand, after all. I have a great deal of pride in my ethical standards.
Final Thoughts
As a qualified and experienced hypnotist, I know from experience that I can only help those who want to be helped. If someone doesn’t want to change or improve their life, then there is nothing I can do for them.
Hypnosis is not magic; it’s a process that requires the full cooperation of the client. Trust, faith, and a willingness to change are essential for hypnosis to be successful. So, if you’re looking for help, please get in touch. I would be more than happy to help you achieve your goals.